13 Reasons Why: A Message to Parents

by Kelly Cave, LPC, LMFT

Have you heard about it? It’s all the hype right now. I have teenage clients coming in right and left telling me they and all their friends are watching it. Yet, I have some, but very few, adults coming in reporting the same.

Is this show okay for our teenagers to watch?

This is a great question. Let’s first start with a little recap of the show. The main character commits suicide and leaves behind a series of tapes detailing why she did it. Each side of the tape is directed toward a different person and what that person did or didn’t do that contributed to her taking her own life. It also shows in detail how each of those individuals is affected by the tapes and how much they, in turn, struggle with that shame and guilt. Many critics say that it glorifies revenge suicide and teaches students that they can get the impact they want by killing themselves and leaving behind tapes, videos, or letters to make those that bullied them pay. However, this isn’t reality and this isn’t the message we are wanting our teens to be hearing, is it?

I’ve read review after review suggesting that if you are going to let your teen watch this, you should at least watch it with them. I am going to take it one step further by saying that you should watch it before them. Why? If you watch it before them, you know what they are about to see. You may not fully know how it will affect them but you can at least be partially ready for how they might relate and react to the story line. And you’ll be prepared to have or to start conversation with them about it.

This show may not be good in terms of communicating a good message to our teenagers but I do think it is somewhere to start for parents who are feeling out of touch with their teens. Is this happening to every single one of them? No. But much of what this program shows is happening in every high school these days. There is physical violence and sexual harassment. The show opens up with a sexual photo being sent all around school, which is something I hear about daily. The things that the show is depicting may not be something you want to hear or see. All the reviews say, is this really what we want our children to be watching? But I want to challenge you to assume that your children are already seeing or experiencing these things at school. No, this show is not the best in terms of uplifting messages. But it does provide a platform of communication for you and your teen if you allow it to. Try not to miss out on this opportunity, even if you’re late to the game like I was. Watch it, anyway, so that you can go back and talk to your teen about it.

Each and every generation is being faced with new challenges. The generation currently in high school has it more difficult than any generation prior to them. In a world of social media and digital images, their most embarrassing moments or poor decisions can be captured on film and blasted around the school in the matter of seconds. They are dealing with the constant pressure of fitting in by sending “nudes” or attending this or that party. They are constantly connected on their phones but not connected at all emotionally. We’ve always had loneliness and depression, and I think that we always will. But this generation seems to be struggling with it much more. There are resources available for you and your children. Here at Foundation Counseling we long to connect with you and your teens and help create understanding for what they are dealing with. My personal goal is to help bridge the gap between the generations to create deeper, more meaningful relationships for the teenagers of today.

Kelly is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Marrige and Family Therapist at Foundation Counseling. She enjoys working with individuals and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about her and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

Courage Despite Social Anxiety

by Lydia Minear, LPC

The definition of courage is “strength in the face of pain or grief.”  Often, the words courageous & brave conjure images of powerful characters who appear fearless, with endless confidence.  However, this does not align with the true meaning of courage.

Real courage means not having all the answers, yet proceeding forward anyway.  Courage asks us to accept our emotions such as fear, nervousness, and self-doubt while trying something difficult.  Living with courage involves accepting imperfections as a normal part of growth and a normal part of being human.

For individuals with social anxiety specifically, daily life can present with a need for courage.  Social anxiety is a fear of judgment and rejection.  A person with social anxiety feels in some way inadequate.  Many people have social fears.  To show up and be seen by others is not always easy.  Being excluded from a group and feeling different can instill pain that makes us afraid to be seen.  Hiding, which is a way of protecting oneself from potential judgement, keeps us on the outside looking in.  The consequence is loneliness and missing out.  Working through social anxiety is a process, one which involves exploring and undserstanding feelings and fears while moving towards greater self-acceptance and love for oneself.  Along the way, we can take steps to being seen.  The poem I have written below is inspired by the brave and beautiful journeys of individuals, clients and friends, who experience social anxiety yet live and grow despite their fears.

Courage: A Poem

Standing on the sidelines,

a spectator peering in.

Distant, safe, hidden and tame,

Yet inside an untapped flame.

An option lands before me.

Timid, I look down.

Sensing my heartbeat racing,

the question floats here now.

To remain still, the pull is strong,

tempted to stay warm here in my hole.

Yet, Courage, you nudge me, winking,

whispering desires within my soul.

Two steps forward, I am moving,

fear, uncertainty by my side.

Shaky legs and sweaty fingers,

nervous, in the scope of others’ sight.

Discovering purpose, I reach closer,

making room they let me in.

Blood pumping, I feel bolder.

Richly alive, I am seen.

Retreating – once an option,

now seems further from my mind.

Curiosity and excitement leading,

pushing me past the shy divide.

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Lydia is a Licensed Professional Counselor who enjoys working with individuals, teens, and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. She has a special passion for helping those suffering from social anxiety and issues with self-esteem.  Learn more about her and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here. Continue reading

What a Bonded Romantic Relationship Looks Like: Bringing Clarity to the Science of Love

by Jim Stockton, LPC

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What characterizes a bonded romantic relationship? If you asked ten people this question, you may get ten different answers. You may get answers like good communication, the ability to problem solve, the ability to resolve conflict, or a vibrant sex life. Of course, these are all important elements of a healthy, loving romantic relationship. However, I believe these elements of a loving relationship are byproducts of the presence of a secure attachment and a deep bond, which I have come to embrace as the key elements of a loving relationship and which brings clarity when trying to define the science of love.

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I learned this while on my journey of getting trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), a model of working with distressed relationships developed by the renowned Canadian psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson. EFT focuses on creating and strengthening the emotional bond between partners by identifying and transforming the key moments that foster an adult loving relationship. In EFT work with couples, I focus on getting the couple to break the negative and hurtful cycle that causes them to lose their emotional balance, by experiencing key moments of relationship that entails being open, attuned, and responsive to each other. This experiential process is what brings lasting change in the relationship and creates the safety and security the relationship lacked before. Once the couple begins to experience their relationship in this new way, they will enhance their ability to communicate, problem solve, resolve conflict, and have a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

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Looking at romantic relationships through the lens of attachment is paramount to understanding relational distress. Most couple fights are really protests over emotional disconnection and unmet attachment needs. Changing the dynamic of the relationship from disconnection and distress to attunement and emotional responsiveness calms down the frustration and anger reactivity in the couple’s present dynamic and now allows them to relate in a more positive way. This model paves the way for a deeper and longer lasting bonded relationship than merely teaching the partners communication skills. Asking them to remember their communication skills in the heat of their highly escalated cycle is like trying read “how to pull your parachute” manual when you are in free fall.

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What are the essential elements that create a healthy loving romantic relationship? I truly believe they are partner accessibility and attunement, responsiveness, and emotional engagement. It is these elements that foster securely attached and deeply bonded relationships.

Jim Stockton is a Licensed Professional Counselor with Foundation Counseling. He is trained in EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy for couples work) and has extensive experience working with distressed marriages in the Marietta & Kennesaw areas. He also works with individuals, both adults and adolescents. Learn more about Jim at Foundation Counseling here.

Facing Our Pain


by Heidi Zaffos, LMFT
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“You have to live through your pain gradually and thus deprive it of its power over you. Yes, you must go into the place of your pain. What is your pain? It is the experience of not receiving what you most need. It is a place of emptiness where you feel sharply the absence of the love you most desire. To go back to that place is hard, because you’re confronted there with your wounds as well as with your powerlessness to heal yourself. You have to begin to trust that your experience of emptiness is not the final experience, that beyond it is a place where you are being held in love.” (Henri Nouwen, The Inner Voice of Love)
 
In his book, The Inner Voice of Love, Henri Nouwen intimately describes the rawness and courage required to face our pain. I love how he says “go into the place of your pain”. It’s as if he’s describing a journey. This is how I often see counseling. A  journey of entering a place where we are confronted with our wounds and losses while trusting there is more to come from our experience of emptiness and loneliness. There is an awe-ness and sacredness to this process. I invite you to be curious about this journey. Reach out to a counselor if your curiosity leads you to a place of desire to experience “going into” your personal story.
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Heidi is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and co-founder at Foundation Counseling. She enjoys working with individuals, couples, and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about her and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

Attunement

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By Phil Zaffos, LPC

Attunement describes how in touch a person is to another’s emotional needs, moods and feelings. A person who is well-attuned will respond with appropriate language and behaviors based on another person’s emotional state. They are good at recognizing moods and emotions in another and adapting their own response in accordance.
Attunement is so vital for the development of a sense of self, especially in childhood. When we are missed by others, our desire and need for relationship is unfulfilled, which can birth in us a confusion and shame, which we wrestle to cope with in various ways though life.

Simply stated: being misattuned to or not attuned to can create harm in a person.

Probably all of us have been impacted by the effects of having been ‘missed’ or harmed, whether in an acute moment or a more chronic history of events. How do you experience this influence within yourself? How do you see this impact your choices? Your relationships?

Being heard and understood by another let’s us know that what is happening within us is significant. Feeling significant by having our hearts seen, known and understood offers an affirmation and a reflection of the worth that we inherently possess. It also creates a security and safety through unconditional acceptance, connection and support.

Through counseling, what many experience is that attunement carries with it an inherent challenge because it invites you into experiencing your true worth. It simultaneously beckons you to wrestle with the pain and shame offered to your heart in your life and awakens your deepest desires. When this happens, the foundations of harm have been disrupted, releasing it’s grip over your heart and opens a door for healing. My hope as a counselor is that this sacredness can be a gift offered to those who are desiring more for life.

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Phil is a Licensed Professional Counselor and founding director at Foundation Counseling. He enjoys working with groups, individuals and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about him and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

Questions for My Therapist…

by Kelly Cave, LAPC


Things I’ve always wanted to ask my therapist…

  1. questionDo you think about me when I’m not here?

I love this question so much because I believe that it speaks to the heart of us all. We all want to be remembered, to be important, to be meaningful. No one wants to be forgotten. The answer to this is simply, yes. Do we think about you daily? No, probably not. But the moment you open your heart to us and share your story, you become a part of us. We take seriously the role of holding your story and we carry it with us. Because of that, it’s hard to not think of you.

  1. Do you win every argument with your spouse?

Let this be a resounding NO! Although I am not married I have witnessed many of my married counselor friends lose plenty of fights with their spouses and I personally have lost fights with my loved ones. Why? Because so many emotions are involved in our own personal relationships. It’s easy to see the problems that other people have when you are not the one experiencing all of the feelings that they are.

  1. Do therapists struggle with their own things and do they go to counselors too?

Sure! Being a therapist may allow us to understand emotions better or identify our emotions more easily but it certainly does not make us immune to life’s problems. Similarly, we are not immune to issues such as depression and anxiety. Often times, therapists get into this line of work because of their own personal experiences with mental health issues or other problems in their lives and have overcome them with the help of counseling or through other avenues. I would hope that most counselors have been or are currently in counseling themselves. The reason I think this is important is twofold; one being that we should understand what it is like on the other side of the couch. We should know and experience what we are asking for when asking you to disclose such vulnerable and personal information. The second reason is that no matter how “healthy” you are, there is always room for more self-growth and self-exploration.

  1. How do you not get emotionally attached to your clients?

This is a difficult question because it implies that we shouldn’t get emotionally attached to our clients. Does my emotional health depend on yours? No. Does my sense of self depend on your getting better? No. But of course we develop emotional attachments and care about you. You bare yourselves to us. You take a risk with being vulnerable with us and we walk through your journey with you. It’s hard to not care about someone who is willing to let you in like that. There have been plenty of times that I’ve gone home feeling extremely happy because one of my client’s made a huge stride in treatment and there are times that I go home feeling sad for my clients. I couldn’t imagine not feeling for my clients.  

  1. Do you ever like a client so much that you “break up” your therapeutic relationship to be friends with them?

Unfortunately, no.  There are different ethical regulations for every profession (Professional Counseling and Marriage and Family Therapy) that dictate the length of time that has to lapse in order to enter into a relationship of any kind with a client. So, even if I did terminate a client in order to be friends with them we would have to wait two years, at the minimum, before being able to have a friendship. But even then it would be difficult because the relationship is built on one person taking care of the other and it would be hard to change the dynamic. This doesn’t mean that we have never wanted to. There have been plenty of times that I’ve thought, “Gosh, what a cool person! Too bad we met here.” But then I remember what an honor it is to enter into their story in this way and I feel grateful that I get to have the therapeutic relationship.

 

Kelly is a Licensed Associate Professional Counselor at Foundation Counseling. She enjoys working with individuals and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about her and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

Contempt: A Band-Aid for the Soul

by Phil Zaffos, LPC

The power and complexity of contempt reaches far and wide in our world. It can be found hidden beneath a subtle and seemingly humble remark that deflects a compliment. More egregiously, it can be a flagrant banner of hatred used to justify heinous crimes. The cruel irony of such a destructive force is that we often use it to protect.

imageProtect who? How? Well, anyone. Everyone. We arm ourselves with contempt when we want to take the easy way out. Think about it; why do you feel contempt for others or yourself in your own life? Just because? Or is it because someone has hurt you? Someone has misled you? Taken advantage of you? It is through the afflictions we endure, whether through a face of disappointment, a crushing comment, being ignored or treated less than the worth you have, being violated, that offers us the tempting choice of contempt for others and ourselves.

So what am I protecting from? In these moments of pain that come in many forms, we are faced with the realization that all is not well. We are being treated less than what is fair and beneath our inherent human value. Our needs are infringed upon and the discrepancy between the treatment we deserve and the treatment we receive creates a deep sense of loss, from which we can choose to adopt as our new value as ‘less than’ or build a wall that keeps others out. Yet, if we allow ourselves to move beneath contempt, we will find a hurt and shame, which desperately needs nurturing.

When our value is wounded, shame often settles in. The messages sent, whether the pain delivered is intentional or not, speak to our value and disrupts our sense of self. What we do in these moments, and so often how we have been taught to respond, is ever so crucial. Do you turn on others when you feel shame? Do you turn on yourself? Or do you have the capacity to offer kindness and soothing, validation and understanding to yourself in order to salve your wound, giving space for the sadness and grief and offering repair in that hurt to insulate and protect who you are?

This is a powerful shift from an often deeply rooted pattern of allegiance to contempt and therefore, self-abandonment. To begin to step into a position of advocating for yourself allows for this contempt to dissipate and to finally reveal a deeper truth beneath it. When we work through our shame, we re-discover a space within us that is often suffocated by the world’s whims. We find a life that dares to feel, dares to desire and dares to live again.

 

Phil is a Licensed Professional Counselor and founding director at Foundation Counseling. He enjoys working with groups, individuals and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about him and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

On Feeling Stuck & How Therapy Helps

by Lydia Minear, MA, LPC 

In my time meeting with new clients, I often hear some variation of this shared: “I don’t know…I just feel stuck.” This experience of feeling stuck leads many people to consider and potentially try therapy.  I have a hunch that at some point most people find themselves in such a place…

But what does it mean? This stuck-ness, what is it? And is it as vague as it sounds?

imageSometimes, yes it is. Unlike other times when a very clear obstacle or event causes pain, feeling stuck can mean finding oneself in a more general, emotionally undesired and familiar place. This place may involve a mixture of feelings – of frustration, anxiety, loneliness, envy, and sadness. Like wandering through a forest, hoping to find a clearing, yet winding back to the same ‘ole stump, it may feel like you have traveled in circles.
Perhaps you and the stump look a bit different now and the surrounding landscape has changed some too. However, the underlying ground and root issues remain, bringing forth similar tension each time.

If we dig a bit deeper and put names to these often-vague yet familiar places of being stuck, the following may serve as examples:

• Stunted…restrained by self-doubt, fear, and lack of confidence
• Lack of closeness and authenticity in relationships
• General boredom & apathy
• Unclear boundaries with others & people-pleasing behaviors
• Avoidance of emotions (i.e. “pushing down feelings”)
• Unsatisfied and frustrated by school, career, or overall life direction

…just to name a few.

How Therapy Helps:

In response to feeling stuck, I find that it is important to seek understanding. We need to understand what keeps us coming back to our familiar places in order to ultimately head in a new direction…

Therapy invites you to take intentional time for this. It involves a commitment to self – a decision to pause amidst the chaos and choose awareness. In doing so, we can begin to gain insight into the patterns and tendencies which continue to re-emerge. By taking this step we also learn more about how heartache, rejection, and how other painful parts of our individual stories have impacted us. Due to this, therapy includes a leaning-in to the discomfort of our vulnerable feelings to know what our emotions are telling us. It also entails asking important questions such as who am I, what causes me pain, and what do I hope for?

Finally, therapy is a brave step in the journey of healing. In the presence of a caring and focused counselor, therapy offers us a chance to go – at our own pace – into the hurting places of our hearts with purposes of being understood, seeking clarity, and finding new possibility. Along the way…perhaps we discover why we tend to return to “the stump” and with greater knowledge and comfort, find that we can move forward in a new way.

As a helping professional, I feel grateful for the chance to walk with people as they set aside the time to invest in their wellbeing and explore the depth of themselves in the hopes of growth.

 

Lydia is a Licensed Professional Counselor who enjoys working with individuals and families in the Marietta & Kennesaw area. Learn more about her and other therapists at Foundation Counseling here.

In Response to Bruce Jenner and The Duggars

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I think we’ve probably all read some major headlines lately having to do with sex. First, the Duggar scandal and second, the Jenner sex change. Lots of opinions have been flying around, which comes as no surprise.

I recently read an article about the Bruce Jenner topic and found myself discouraged. Not about the topic itself necessarily, but how the article was written. I felt similarly in relation to how the situation with the Duggar’s was handled.

I don’t mind when people share their opinions; I can appreciate authenticity more than most things. However, what I do have a problem with is how we share. Authenticity very quickly shifts into selfishness when one shares their opinion without considering the context. In other words, if I tell my wife my thoughts and feelings completely unfiltered without considering how she may receive it, is it beneficial, connecting and edifying for her to know these things? Not if she cannot receive it. I will have served myself only and yet even then, if I can see it, I will have served no one but my childish desires and impulses.

Children often cannot see beyond themselves. We have to teach them to have empathy for how our worlds collide with others. They must learn to be mindful of their surroundings and adapt so as to be respectful, courteous and therefore, mind others as equals while still remaining true to themselves. Children struggle with emotion regulation. They feel something and act out, often becoming dysregulated, perhaps throwing a temper tantrum.

So what’s my point? I struggle with how people handle the major stories in media. It tends to be incredibly nearsighted. We get so caught up in our own version of truth, that we throw caution to the wind and grow bloodthirsty for justice as we see fit in our eyes. We lack understanding of how to approach uncomfortable and at times, horrific or controversial stories, in a way that would be edifying. We lack discernment because we get so caught up in the emotion of our perspective and blast off because we just can’t contain it any longer.

I read Matt Walsh’s news story this morning. I don’t know him at all and I don’t know his job description, if he gets paid to write with a certain gusto or anything at all, so I don’t mean anything toward him in a personal way; I simply wanted to use the article as an example for what I’m describing. (Here is his article: http://www.theblaze.com/contributions/calling-bruce-jenner-a-woman-is-an-insult-to-women/)

In his article about Bruce Jenner, he begins the article with one critical statement after the other. In the second paragraph alone, he says that Bruce “resembles a mentally disordered man who is being manipulated by disingenuous liberals and self-obsessed gay activists”. Next, he says Bruce “reminds [him] of someone who is being abandoned by his delusions by a culture of narcissistic imbeciles”. The next sentence is the most concerning yet: “I feel a great deal of compassion when I gaze upon this tragic sight—especially because post-op “transgenders” very often regret their decision, and in many cases attempt suicide—but few share my love or concern for him”.

This last notion really hurts. To toss one insult after another at a person and then to say you have “compassion” or “love” or “concern” when viewing them because they often times turn self-destructive afterward is nothing even close to a compassionate or loving remark. I cannot say whether this writer truly feels compassion because I am not him. However, there is no evidence of such a thing within this writing.

Imagine sitting across from someone and sharing with them something you are struggling deeply with as your own undeniable reality. You make yourself vulnerable and then pause for their response. They look at you as they begin to speak and they offer a sentiment of “compassion” saying, “I feel really bad for you, especially because people in your situation tend to regret the decision you are making or even attempt suicide.” Would you feel understood? Would you feel warmth and compassion? Or would you feel judged, labeled, invalidated, misunderstood, emotionally unsafe and hurt?

Let’s move on to the part of the article where Walsh discusses bravery. I think he gets a little too caught up here in his version of truth and the consequent justice. He dismisses Bruce’s awarded character trait of bravery, evidently, because he does not believe in what he was standing up for. This is the definition of criticism. For someone to say that a man who completely goes against the grain of social norms, making himself vulnerable to all the insults that may, and as Walsh has proven will come, isn’t brave does not seem to understand the definition of the word. One doesn’t have to agree with Bruce’s actions, in fact one can even say that it’s wrong if they believe so, but to dismiss the obvious bravery that comes with such vulnerability is reckless and to me, discredits the rest of that person’s opinion as nearsighted and unhelpful. I wonder what the point of this article was? Was Walsh hoping to start a riot? To boycott Jenner’s existence? His upcoming tv show? To bring about social awareness? To “make a change”? To “usher in truth”? If so, the “how to” is incredibly lacking. His article would be the equivalent of a white supremacist who calls Martin Luther King Jr. during the civil rights movement a man who is being abandoned to his delusions by a culture of narcissistic imbeciles. Again, despite the cause, how we approach it is far more important to the impact of the cause than “spewing out truth”. It’s part of the responsibility of being in community, let alone having as powerful of a platform as a well-known writer. If you really believe in something and want to make a change, then let the dust from a hurting heart’s footsteps cover you.

I won’t go on about the article, but instead come back to some more generalities. If we want to make an impact, we must learn how to deal with vulnerability; our own and others. I do believe in boldness, but recklessness is not the same thing. To go after someone, say Josh Duggar, and destroy his reputation, family life and job for a sense of justice is to highlight a horrific act, which is evidence that someone needs help, and to offer more destruction. We see people who are in need and spit on them. We make sure to make them feel the weight of their brokenness and add to it. It’s the slippery slope we ride when we lose sight of acknowledging one’s pain and begin to judge the manifestation of their pain. We might as well throw insults at every alcoholic, drug addict, thief, liar, bragger, narcissist, insecure person and you.

I leave you with this: If someone could launch an investigation on your life…how about further…to launch an investigation into your heart and could see all the places within, how would you want these things exposed? How would you want “truth” presented to you? What would you need?

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Learn more about Phil Zaffos, MA, LPC & Heidi Zaffos, MA, LMFT, LPC and Foundation Counseling .

Introducing New ‘Mens Transformation Group’

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Foundation Counseling is excited to announce the launching of the ‘Mens Transformation Counseling Group’!

Phil Zaffos, MA, LPC has always been passionate about seeing men transformed. In reflecting on the current state of “manhood” in our society and it’s evolution over the past century through events, wars, economics, social and cultural norms, technology and our fathers and fathers before them, it appears quite evident that a change must be made. Here are just a few concerns:

-A quick conversation with a man can often reveal an emotional ineptitude.

-The rise in the number of divorces, intimate partner violence and teen-dating violence with men as the perpetrators.

-The prevalence of ‘absent fathers’, both physically and emotionally.

-The seeming inability to have deep and meaningful connections with other men, let alone women.

-The rate at which pornography is viewed/purchased by men and the perpetuation of the unrealistic (and often times with technology, inauthentic) standard of beauty placed on women and objectification.

-And worst of all, the intentional/unintentional lack of recognition of how badly a change is needed manifesting in a large epidemic of complacency.

Phil has been working over the past 5 years with men, in all phases of life, individually and in groups seeking to re-awaken who we are as men and to challenge what has become the norm in our current time.

To further step into this need, Foundation Counseling is now offering a ‘Mens Transformation Group.   People who would benefit from this group would be men who:

-Are struggling with anxiety or depression.

-Have frustrations that often lead to anger outbursts.

-Are having marriage or relationship difficulties.

-Are unsure of how to communicate well, especially feelings.

-Lack direction or passion in life.

-Are desiring to have authentic, meaningful relationships with other men.

-Are seeking to grow more in self-awareness and to enhance the quality of your life and those around you.

The vision is this: in understanding more about who we are, how we think and feel and why, we can cast a more clear and precise vision of where and who we want to be and how to get there. With this new self-awareness and vision, you will also learn and develop skills and strategies to empower you in all areas and relationships in your life. Alongside other men for support, encouragement and accountability, we journey together and experience transformation.

The group is designed to illicit meaningful and lasting change. Research is beginning to more and more suggest that lasting change on the level in which this group is designed to create can take potentially up to a year at a weekly rate to take root. The Mens Transformation group we are launching is going to be a 24 week process, which is definitely an investment of time. And yet the research suggests, and the men I have worked with for years have almost always agreed, that 24 weeks is just the beginning.

I want to challenge you, men. Take an honest look at the state of your being; your family, your relationships, your communication, your temper, your self-awareness, your happiness, your career, and your priorities and ask yourself:

“Are you truly creating the legacy that you desire on the deepest level and that the world desperately needs?”

Come and join us. This weekly group is beginning on Sunday, April 19th at 2:00 pm at Foundation Counseling.

Fore more information, contact Phil Zaffos, MA, LPC.

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Learn more about Phil Zaffos, MA, LPC & Heidi Zaffos, MA, LMFT, LPC and Foundation Counseling .