by Kelly Cave, LAPC Things I’ve always wanted to ask my therapist… Do you think about me when I’m not here? I love this question so much because I believe that it speaks to the heart of us all. We all want to be remembered, to be important, to be meaningful. No one wants to … More Questions for My Therapist…
by Phil Zaffos, LPC The power and complexity of contempt reaches far and wide in our world. It can be found hidden beneath a subtle and seemingly humble remark that deflects a compliment. More egregiously, it can be a flagrant banner of hatred used to justify heinous crimes. The cruel irony of such a destructive … More Contempt: A Band-Aid for the Soul
by Lydia Minear, MA, LPC In my time meeting with new clients, I often hear some variation of this shared: “I don’t know…I just feel stuck.” This experience of feeling stuck leads many people to consider and potentially try therapy. I have a hunch that at some point most people find themselves in such a … More On Feeling Stuck & How Therapy Helps
Foundation Counseling is excited to announce the launching of the ‘Mens Transformation Counseling Group’! Phil Zaffos, MA, LPC has always been passionate about seeing men transformed. In reflecting on the current state of “manhood” in our society and it’s evolution over the past century through events, wars, economics, social and cultural norms, technology and our … More Introducing New ‘Mens Transformation Group’
Without hope, what will become of man? It’s the reason we can get up out of bed in the morning, the leverage for motivation and the drive for improvement. Without hope, what is the reason to live? If we do not believe that we can make a difference, that we can have a better life, … More In Hope
In a recent session of couples counseling, we went back to the basics and asked a simple yet pivotal question: “Why marriage?” Another way of asking, ‘what are we really fighting for/toward here?’ I was a little surprised to be met with blank stares and after a short silence, “I don’t know…” “Ok, well why … More The “M” Word
The Problem of Pain by C.S. Lewis is one of my favorite books and yet, so far in my lifetime, has been one of my most challenging and worst experiences. Pain in this world is an undeniable and inevitable reality. We all, at one time or another, will have our share of pain be … More The Problem of Pain
What makes a person become abusive? Most people would agree that people aren’t born abusive, but that they become that way. How does the path turn an innocent child into someone who abuses? [A quick disclaimer: during this segment, I will be using masculine pronouns. I will be doing this for ease of writing. Also, … More Inside the World of Domestic Violence: Part III
The Cycle of Violence The cycle of violence is the term used to describe the pattern of chaos that is involved in domestic violence. It puts a name and words to what so many victims experience, but have no idea how to comprehend so often. This cycle of violence is all about power and control … More Inside The World of Domestic Violence: Part II
“What makes someone hit the person they love?” “How does (the cycle of) domestic violence even happen?” “Why don’t victims just leave?” “I’ve never been hit, so is this abuse?” “What exactly is domestic violence?” “Can the abuser be helped?” These are just a few of the questions I am typically asked by clients, victims … More Inside The World of Domestic Violence Series: Part I
